Ode to My Twenties

Today is the last day of my twenties. Tomorrow is my Golden Birthday and I’ll be 30 on the 30th 😉

Night of my 27th birthday, the most life changing of the twenties

As I look back over the last decade, I can’t help but smile, shake my head and just laugh. It feels like I’ve been through it all! Let’s recap…

experienced life on the campus of an HBCU after years in a predominantly white educational environment
met people who changed my views, pushed me to be better and ultimately became life long friends
graduated from undergrad then moved across country to pursue acting in LA
became a professional server instead
gave up on my dream & moved back home in hopes of finding love
got my first apartment on my own sans roommates
learned that credit cards were not my friend and how to better manage my money
decided to go to graduate school to pursue my masters
found out that the love I thought would last forever was really a bust

continued on the career path of a professional server while working a day job that i hated
got promoted, fired and then rehired as a contractor all within 6 months at said job
became a little too friendly with alcohol and paid a huge price because of it
turned in my server card for the nightlife of a brand ambassador
developed and then later kicked a toxic relationship with cigarettes
graduated with a fresh MBA and no job prospects
started my own business with hopes of leaving the corporate world
met the love of my life but was too preoccupied with useless relationships to notice
finally came to my senses and agreed to be his wife
quit both jobs
had the wedding of my dreams
moved to the country and became a housewife

Didn’t I tell you it was a lot? That’s definitely not everything but you get the point. At the end of the day, I can truly say that my twenties were the most chaotic, difficult, confusing yet liberating, educational and exciting years of my life. I learned so much about myself and the way of the world that I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Although I’ve come a very long way, I still have a long way to go and that’s okay. Instead of worrying about the things that I don’t have, I choose to focus on the things that I do. I will be grateful for the lessons I learned in my twenties and do all that I can to make sure that my thirties turn out even better!!

Cheers to the next 10 years 😉

XOXO,

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22 Comments

  1. Miss T.
    June 29, 2012 / 5:02 pm

    This was so dope!! Happy early birthday & I pray your year to come is just as liberating & full of love & blessings.

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 6:08 pm

      Thanks lady!!

  2. Mandi
    June 29, 2012 / 5:24 pm

    Learned a lot of new things about you Gabe–thanks for sharing! Hope you have a wonderful 3oth birthday. I'm sure Chad has some great things in store for you–so make sure to record this weekend! LOLMandi

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 6:08 pm

      Thanks Mandi!! I'll definitely make sure we record 😉

  3. Lindsay
    June 29, 2012 / 5:46 pm

    Happy birthday, Gabrielle! 🙂

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 6:09 pm

      Thanks Lindsay!!

  4. n
    June 29, 2012 / 6:15 pm

    I absolutely love you Gabe! You are one of the few bloggers that I can say I identify with on so many levels. Plus, I feel like you are so genuine and loving! I hope God blesses you with many birthdays and I'm sure 'babe' has lots planned for you!

  5. Anonymous
    June 29, 2012 / 7:44 pm

    Wow a women after my own heart LOL. Yes life is a journey so enjoy the ride taking the knowledge that is offeres along the way. You made it to the big girls club now! Curtis

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 7:55 pm

      Woo-hoo, the big girls club!!

  6. Liz Hart
    June 29, 2012 / 7:49 pm

    Awesome blog Gabe! The thirties are awesome! Happy early birthday honey!!! Miss ya! Hope you're loving the country:) Liz Hart

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 7:54 pm

      Thank you so much Liz!!

  7. DaCreatives
    June 29, 2012 / 7:59 pm

    Yeah…I hate that you're not here to celebrate your 30th…but I know you'll have a blast! I'm glad that I've gotten to be apart of the last 3-3.5 years of your experience and I can't wait to see what all you achieve in the next 10 years. Luv ya lil Sis…

    • gabeflowers
      June 29, 2012 / 8:12 pm

      Aww, how sweet…luv you too Em!!

  8. Meredith M
    June 29, 2012 / 9:18 pm

    Happy early birthday. I wish that before I had turned 30 that I had reflected on my 20s the way that you have. With a little over 4 years before I hit 40 (I don't even feel a day over 25 ;-)) I hope that I will be able to reflect on the last decade or two as you have. Again, Happy Birthday and I know that Chad bka "babe" 🙂 has something wonderful planned for you. Enjoy, God Bless and I'm with Mandi, record some of it 🙂 Take careMerdul:-)

  9. chickenboo
    June 29, 2012 / 11:23 pm

    Happy Birthday! Even though I'm past 30, this post makes me want to reflect on my 20's. I might have to just do it anyway. lol

    • gabeflowers
      July 2, 2012 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you ma'am! It was fun reminiscing and putting this together. You should do it.

  10. ms.mika916
    June 30, 2012 / 3:31 pm

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY may God continue to bless you with many more years to inspire and just be an awesome and beautiful young woman.

  11. Anonymous
    July 1, 2012 / 6:02 am

    Happy Beautiful & Blessed Birthday!!! May you have many more with your wonderful support of family and friends 🙂

    • gabeflowers
      July 2, 2012 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you so much!

  12. ronniyme
    July 7, 2012 / 5:15 pm

    Wow! You make me very proud! I love you very much! Happy New Beginning, New Journey, New Adventure Birthday! You're no longer a gazing girl, but a Lovely Lady. :>) Kudos to you! I absolutely love the blog! Wow! You sure said a mouthful. I feel like I lived it with you! :>) Your future holds many Miracles & Blessings in store, so get on board, and enjoy the ride!

  13. Stapu
    July 8, 2012 / 6:00 am

    Wow what bravery and honesty. I learned to love God and my husband. And I have had great success in my 30. Continue to lve and respect babe he adores you. God s gift to you

  14. Anthea
    July 28, 2012 / 5:03 am

    I’m such a baby, I read your “20’s reflections” and started to cry. I can relate to some of it. I’m still in my 20’s( late) but it’s become an interesting journey that only God knows whats in store and I can’t wait to see what he has for me… I wouldn’t change anything either because it has molded me for the women I am and to come.. . Thank you I needed that.